There is something in many of our psyches which finds the notion of “Self love” uncomfortable. It brings to mind selfishness or bigheadedness but isn’t that just an outdated idea of the definition? In my books, and may I add that it has taken me many years to get here, self love means honouring my own wellbeing and happiness. Being observant of how my words and actions can affect how I am feeling and making a conscious effort to be kind and compassionate to myself. And what is wrong with that? How can you love others and make them happy if you can’t love yourself. The Ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle summed it up perfectly with his quote “ The best way to be loved is to love yourself”
Here are my top five tips in giving yourself a big dose of love:
Set intentions for your day
Start your day thinking of what small things you can do or feel that will make you feel good. Write an intention list before you let the news or others affect your mood. The emphasis is not on what you do but how it makes you feel. Here is an example of a daily intention list.
Today I will find time to make myself happy by:
- Going for a walk in nature
- Laughing out loud or dancing to my favourite upbeat tune
- Honouring my body by taking the time to make myself a nourishing meal
Watch how you talk to yourself
Would you use that language when talking to your friend?...many of us call ourselves stupid if we make a silly mistake, or find fault when we look in the mirror. Talk to yourself with encouragement and love as you would do with dear friend
Bring music into your life every day.
Music is an incredible motivator and healer. A song can alter our mood in the first few beats. Play your power song and let it soak in. Have a little dance while you are at it. The endorphins will flow…
Pamper yourself with a self care ritual that resonates with your soul
Essential oils are good for enhancing tranquillity and a feel good mood. Bergamot works on self love and self acceptance. Frankincense is good for clearing emotions and Geranium (one of my personal favourites) is the oil of feminine and motherly love. Experiment with the aromas that make you feel good. You can vaporise them or put drops in a bath with Epsom salts.
Surround yourself with people that encourage and support you
and don’t make you feel selfish for wanting to look after yourself. Conversely there are those who make you feel not quite “good enough”. Think about why that is. Is it self inflicted by feelings of unworthiness?...work on celebrating yourself and your uniqueness and see how that shifts those feelings. Affirmations are a good tool “ I am enough, I am beautiful, I am unique, I am vibrant and blissful”…you get the drift 😊
Happy Self Love Day